So I made a mistake with my son this weekend. I felt he was working the "go into bed" thing and actually he was afraid because it was too dark. So of course he gets upset and mom comes to the rescue. And of course my wife goes off on me how she's so tired of how I interact with the kids. She's uses an example of my Stepmom and brings up the whole song and dance related with her. She also states that the lack of whatever that happens with the kids is 90% of the issue she has with me and how she doesn't want to work on the marriage because of that.
What's funny is that how I feel I am treated (or not treated) by her is exactly the same way as her example of my stepmom.
For me it's like there is this glass that is rubbed with vaseline, and it obscures everything else. Most of the time I'm like what the fuck. As soon as a I get home, everything is clouded with the fact that she can't expend one ounce of energy for any kind of affection. If it wasn't for me there wouldn't be any contact at all.
I could be wrong, but I think that a huge problem is that for her the kids are everything. Granted they are just about the most important part of our lives but, and it's a big but, they aren't everything in our lives. It's no wonder we haven't had an intimate relationship since our daughter was born. Once that happened all other concerns got pushed to the side.
Wake up and realize that!
What's funny is that how I feel I am treated (or not treated) by her is exactly the same way as her example of my stepmom.
For me it's like there is this glass that is rubbed with vaseline, and it obscures everything else. Most of the time I'm like what the fuck. As soon as a I get home, everything is clouded with the fact that she can't expend one ounce of energy for any kind of affection. If it wasn't for me there wouldn't be any contact at all.
I could be wrong, but I think that a huge problem is that for her the kids are everything. Granted they are just about the most important part of our lives but, and it's a big but, they aren't everything in our lives. It's no wonder we haven't had an intimate relationship since our daughter was born. Once that happened all other concerns got pushed to the side.
Wake up and realize that!
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